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My friend is getting married. Should I buy something off the registry? How do I make it more personal? — Christina

Whether you buy a gift off the registry is completely up to you, but it’s always appreciated by the about-to-weds. Just ask my parents, who still grumble about the 30 salad bowls they got for their wedding, back before registries were the norm. They spent their newlywed days doing a lot of exchanging and trying not to hurt gift givers’ feelings.

If you’re concerned that a registry gift may seem impersonal, or you don’t want the couple to know exactly what you spent, add a related gift. For example, if you’re buying a coffeemaker, also get gourmet coffees. Buying drink glasses? Toss in coasters. Going for cookware or BBQ tools? Throw in a cookbook.