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the string quartet performing Pachelbel’s “Canon.” Instead, get your guests
engaged in the occasion and save cash at the same time — by inviting them to
join in on your nuptials, sing-along style:

  • Include the lyrics to a favorite song in the program (for my wedding, it was “That’s Amore”) and ask everyone to strike up an a cappella chorus as you walk down the aisle. Or take a cue from my friend Elizabeth and ask a few friends to lead guests in a round for the processional. “Row, Row, Row
    Your Boat” not quite what you had in mind? Consider Elizabeth’s choice of

    “Dona Nobis Pacem” (a traditional hymn, translating to “Give Us Peace”) instead.

  • Friends and relatives lack the canary gene? Tape kazoos under guests’ chairs and ask a buddy to lead a kazoo choir. During our ceremony, pals on guitar and tambourine crooned “I Got You Babe” while another friend led the guests in an impressive kazoo backup. P.S. The kazoos, part of

    Kazoo.com’s wedding line (?!), were even imprinted with “Thanks for coming to our wedding.”

  • Have your DJ or band leader announce that if guests want to get you to smooch during dinner, they have to stand up and belt out a lyric with the word “love” in it — think “Love Me Tender,” “Stop in the Name of Love,” etc.
  • If your guests are the game and creative kind, you
    could even ask each table to make up a song about the happy couple — that’s you! — that they then
    perform during dinner, drumming on the table and tapping their glasses with
    cutlery as accompaniment.